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"NEEGATIVE FIVE STARS. What a terrible recipe! I was out of flour but
didn't want to go to the store so I substituted a cup of plaster and a cup of gravel, spray margarine for the cultured butter, and stevia drops for the sugar, and then fried the batter in bacon grease instead of baking it. And I didn't give it the 24 hour rest recommended in the recipe because I'm impatient. The results are INEDIBLE and clearly you CANNOT COOK and should DELETE YOUR BLOG."


Context is tired of stupid recipe reviews.

Reminder: June challenge

May. 25th, 2017 02:26 pm
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Just a quick reminder that the June challenge starts soon.

Anyone got any plans firmed up yet? I’ve organised a date to do my regular bus challenge (i.e. I.c) with [personal profile] bob, and I'm planning to do the next stage in my bit-by-bit West Croydon to London Bridge walk (amended version of II.a) too.

A scarf and some socks

May. 24th, 2017 09:53 am
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Hello! Some finished objects to share, a scarf and some socks, both in springtime green colours

pretties behind the cut )

Extrinsic motivation

May. 24th, 2017 10:15 am
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Really struggling with getting going today, so a quick brainstorm of a (minimum) set of things that need doing
  • finish getting dressed
  • finish tidying the bedroom
  • eat breakfast
  • put load of washing on
  • multivitamins
  • five minutes tidying lounge
  • files onto computer
    • get disk drive set up
    • find the two disks 
    • move the files
  • pay the water bill
  • question 2 from chapter 7
  • question 3 from chapter 7
  • question 4 from chapter 7
  • check answers for the chapter 7 questions
  • get to page 30 in the unit notes
  • work out sensible summary of the data
  • 750 words
  • piano practice
Current time 10:18. Aim is to come back and tick of at least half of these at noon, and then make an updated list. Including fun stuff. 
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[personal profile] eleanorjane posting in [community profile] agonyaunt
(From here.)

DEAR CAROLYN: My 11-year-old daughter is going through a phase right now of extreme, black-and-white thinking. Right is right and wrong is wrong. This is challenging sometimes.

My mother-in-law loves to host but it’s pretty obvious she buys entire meals pre-packaged from a grocery store chain and passes them off as hers. The adults just pretend we don’t know.

Earlier this week my sister-in-law brought this up in a joking way and she, my husband, and I had a laugh about it. Well, my daughter heard this and confronted us about Grandma’s cooking. We tried to explain to her that it’s a kindness not to say, “You didn’t take the garbage out so I saw the takeout containers.” My daughter replied with, “So when you told Grandma her potatoes tasted good, it was a lie?”

She is right, really. We all sort of lie, and so does Grandma.

My daughter told us in no uncertain terms that she will not pretend that Grandma cooked the meal. She is also rather frosty toward us for our willing participation in this, her word, charade, and asked, “What else has Grandma been lying about?”

My husband thinks we should just let this play out, and that our daughter will not be able to look her grandmother in the eye and actually say this stuff. I am almost positive our daughter will say this stuff, and maybe we should warn his mother. Any advice?

We All Sort of Lie

DEAR WE ALL SORT OF LIE: Off the record, please don’t correct your future journalist/scientist/prosecutor too successfully.

On the record, the most important thing here is your daughter’s socialization. You can accomplish that whether you warn Grandma or not — because the consequences of not warning her just aren’t that dire, and because your mission is unchanged regardless. Your daughter has forced you to defend beliefs you probably haven’t examined for a long time, if ever, as kids do so mind-blowingly well.

So find a way to justify your approach to honesty that withstands scrutiny … or admit your daughter is right. “It’s a kindness” is fine as far as it goes, but where specifically are the lines between cruelty and kindness, and kindness and deceit?

Whether you tip off Grandma or let her startled face be part of your daughter’s education, the next dinner will be instructive for your daughter.

So, yeah, I’m giving you nothing. Tell us how it went!
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[personal profile] cereta posting in [community profile] agonyaunt
Dear Carolyn,

I am at my wits' end with family drama. I will spare you the very long and ugly details and start with the most recent heartache.

My husband's daughter from a previous marriage invited our son and his wife and 2-year-old to spend the weekend with them since they were going to be in town for a wedding. His wife accepted. My husband has been estranged from this daughter for over two years. She lives down the street from my husband and me.

When my son and his family arrived, they went to lunch with my husband and stayed through the evening with us. It was a lovely time. Our little granddaughter even went into "her room" and told her dad she wanted to sleep in her bed. It was cruel to see her cry when she had to leave and go to my stepdaughter's house.

My husband is furious. His feelings are crushed and he is angry they would subject her to such nonsense. My husband feels they have been disloyal to him by staying with his estranged daughter.

I have expressed to my son how I felt about his staying with his half-sister. Not because of her so much as how wrong it feels to me to not stay with us. After we are dead and gone, he will have time to stay with his half-sister.

My first thought was to leave town before they got here so I could avoid the whole ordeal. Now, my husband and I have hurt feelings, plenty of tears to go around, and lost sleep over this.

Heartbreak seems to follow wherever my stepdaughter is concerned. I don't want to alienate my daughter-in-law because she will cut my granddaughter out of my life. How can I manage to keep the peace and not "betray" my husband in the process?

-- C.

Your argument, recapped: It's your stepdaughter's fault that she wants to spend time with her brother. Except the part that's your daughter-in-law's fault for saying yes.

Maybe you won't like it in those words, but that's what you're saying -- and it's impressive that you're able to present this without attributing any drama to the man who was "crushed" and "angry" and suffering "tears ... and lost sleep" at the "ordeal" of witnessing the "cruel" and "disloyal" "nonsense" of a child "subject[ed] to" ...

[theatrical pause]

A planned visit to her aunt's house.

After spending an entire day with you two.

Drama, thy name is Grandpa.

I can understand your powerful incentive not to see this; even thinking it opens you to accusations of betrayal from your wounded husband, no doubt. And more tears and sleepless nights and garment-rending and whatever other tactics he uses to keep you emotionally at his service.

But the longer you remain faithful spokesbot for your husband -- or for Stockholm Syndrome -- and declare with a straight face that your son can't sleep at his sister's house until you're dead! (you really said that!), the more soul-rebuilding you'll need when you see the view I've got from here: that you've been devoured by your husband's narcissistic fantasy world.

Even if I'm way off, your family dynamic is still way off. Please find a well-recommended family therapist and go. Just you. Unspool those "very long and ugly details."
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[personal profile] psychopathicus_rex and [personal profile] icon_uk debate the definition of "folklore":

PSYCHOPATHICUS_REX: Not to be pedantic, but (werewolves being vulnerable only to silver bullets) is strictly Hollywood - any old bullet will do. Don't muck up your folkloric credentials now!

ICON_UK: As folklore is more or less completely made up, I fail to see how Hollywood isn't as valid a source as anywhere else, considering how humans everywhere always LOVE turning things into stories.

PSYCHOPATHICUS_REX: Well, the way I look at it, Hollywood folklore is stuff you KNOW is made up - traditional folklore has generally been around for a long time, and at least stands a chance of being true. Personally, I'm a bit of a mystical type by inclination, so I prefer to give it the benefit of the doubt.

ICON_UK: I think I'm more of a Granny Weatherwax type in such things. Folklore is lore told by "folk", and how reliable have people you think of as "folk" ever been? :)

Context discusses magic, headology, and Gen-X British comics fans' Friend On The Other Side.

(no subject)

May. 15th, 2017 09:54 pm
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Sourdough pretzels are an abomination unto Nuggan! (Because they are too hard for me to eat properly. Otherwise, they are a blessing.)

Tip: Shoe polish

May. 12th, 2017 03:59 pm
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I don't know about you, but I grew up in a family that HAD a box of shoe polish and supplies, but never really USED them.  But now I am a convert.  I need professional shoes for work, and my basic black ones were getting pretty, uh, unprofessional looking.  They were bad.  Really bad.  So I was talking to my Mom about how I'd have to replace them.  Dad looked down and said, naw, they just need to be polished.

Now, I was skeptical, because we're not talking actual good-quality leather shoes, here.  We're talking cheap fakes.  But he insisted, so I went to a shoe store (one of the nice ones) and got myself a bottle of black shoe polish.

The shoes do not look new, but they are back in the firmly professional category.  And not only those shoes.  I also tried them on my black tennis shoes.  Again, not real leather, and this pair had places where the top layer of the vinyl had come off.  With polish, you have to look very carefully to see where those places are.  They no longer look like "good for nothing but yardwork," I can wear them out and around town.

I got the bottle of polish for like $9, and it will be enough to last me for years to come even polishing all my pairs of black shoes on a semi-regular basis.  It will save me so much money in not having to buy new shoes.

And, best part?  It's this new thing where you don't have to brush the shoes or polish them after.  You just make sure the shoes are clean and dry, daub the polish on with the included applicator brush, and let them dry.  That is it, that's all you have to do.  The same company (tarrago) also makes clear polish, so you don't have to get a bottle for each different color shoes you own.  I don't think the clear polish would cover the places where there's an actual layer of vinyl missing, but it would probably get rid of scuff marks. 
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DEAR ABBY: I've been dating a guy for two years. He has his late mom's wedding rings. He always said he would use them if he ever proposed to anyone.

Well, he proposed to me last week. Last night he informed me that he had let his ex-girlfriend of 10 years wear the rings because she loved jewelry. It made me sick to my stomach, and made his proposal not mean anything to me.

I told him it would be like me giving him my ex-husband's wedding band to wear. He doesn't understand because he didn't use them to propose to her, but to me that's beside the point. They were on her hand. [Emphasis in the original.]

I told him he should have given me the option of wearing the rings or having him buy my own set. He thinks I'm just supposed to be OK with this. Am I out of line feeling the way I do? -- TARNISHED IN TENNESSEE

DEAR TARNISHED: I don't think so. To say this "guy" lacks sensitivity would be an understatement. Are you sure you actually want to spend the rest of your life with someone so clueless?

When he allowed his former girlfriend to wear his mother's wedding rings "because she loved jewelry" rather than because they were planning to marry, the symbolism of bestowing them vaporized. If you do plan to go through with it, "suggest" he buy you ones or use the stones from his mother's rings in a different setting for a ring you will enjoy wearing rather than feeling like Secondhand Rose (third-hand, actually).
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